21/04/2026
TO THE HUSBAND OF A CALLED WOMAN,
I write to you with deep respect and understanding
It is not always easy to watch your wife step into something you did not plan for, something you may not fully understand. Ministry can feel like a sudden shift, like the woman you married is becoming someone the world now shares with you.
And in those moments, it is easy to say, “I am not your member.”
You are right, you are not.
You are something far more significant.
You are her covenant partner. The one God joined her to, not by accident, but with full knowledge of what He placed inside her.
Her calling is not a competition against you.
It is not a threat to your authority, your place, or your home. If anything, it is an addition to the grace of your household, not a subtraction from your importance.
What she carries does not reduce you.
But how you respond to it can either strengthen your home… or strain it.
Understand this:
She is not trying to lead you.
She is not trying to replace you.
She is not trying to turn your home into a church.
She is simply responding to something divine she did not give herself.
And just as she must learn not to pastor you, you must also learn not to resist what God is doing in her.
Because constant resistance can wound her deeply.
When her passion is met with dismissal…
When her growth is seen as pride…
When her voice is silenced out of fear…
It does not build the home, it weakens the bond.
But here is the wisdom:
You don’t have to understand everything to be supportive.
Sometimes, all that is needed is patience, listening, and a willingness to grow together.
Ask questions instead of shutting down.
Express your concerns without tearing her down.
Stand with her, even if you are still learning what it all means.
Because a wise man does not fight grace, he learns how to align with it.
At the same time, your role remains vital.
You are still the covering of your home.
Your presence, your leadership, your stability, they matter deeply.
And she needs you, not as an opponent, but as a partner.
If there are areas where you feel neglected, unheard, or displaced, communicate it. Not through anger, but through honest conversation.
Because this journey was never meant to divide you.
It is meant to refine both of you.
In the end, it is not about who is more spiritual.
It is about building a home where purpose and peace can live together.
And that requires both of you, walking in understanding, honor, and love.
Dr. David Akindele