10/08/2020
Dear Sisters,
Learn to define your relationships. An undefined relationship is Delaytionship*
Stop the Assumption Ministry! Assumption, we are told is the lowest form of intelligence...😭
Learn to define your relationship with a brother who is acting above his limits of friendship without making his intentions known. Some uncles just love to do the canopy ministry. They'll become clingy acting all nice and caring, calling all night and morning, having you feeling like you are in a relationship with him already, blocking other potential people from seeing you because everyone's assuming you're dating him, when in fact, he is only using you to satisfy his emotional needs.
Some times you even turn down other love proposals from serious people, confidently waiting for uncle to make it official by asking you out, cos whether he knows it or not, in your heart he is already your boo. Only for uncle to finally suprise you with his wedding inviting card.
Sister, If it means ignoring his calls, do it. If you have to start avoiding him, do it. Until he figures it out, and when he does, simply ask him,
"bro, what are we doing? cos I am not understanding you."
If he is a canopy minister, that's when you will hear romantic things like, "you are a good woman Bessem, any man will be blessed to have you."
Oh really? Uncle complimentor, thank you for the compliment. Any man will be blessed to have me indeed, I guess that's a very polite way of letting me know you don't want to be the blessed man then, good, thanks for letting me know. But It's just sad how you have been comfortably blocking a blessing that other men are praying everyday to have.
Do not assume a relationship that isn't there. Do not stay in a relationship with someone who is not in a relationship with you. What is worse than being a side chick is being a side crush. When he can keep you as an option while he is checking out other potential crushes.
It's okay if he calls you desperate, being called desperate is better than wasting your time.
Sisters! Please avoid the "Assumption Ministry" at all cost
If a brother has not openly declared his intentions towards you, please do not assume that he loves you and wants to marry you.
If you do, you are just setting up yourself for future hurt and pains.
Politely ask this brother to define his relationship towards you, if you notice he is sending confusing signals. Don't assume that he loves you and has plans of getting married to you simply because he acts that way.
Ask questions!! Deliver yourself from t brothers in the "Canopy Ministry".
Even if he calls you 10 times a day and buys you all kinds of gifts including a house and a car or a private jet. Even if all his family and friends know you. MY DEAR DON'T ASSUME, ASk Questions!!!!
I am tired of seeing sisters cry because their assumptions turned out to be contrary!!!
A sister was in a "canopy ministry" with a brother for close to three years. She told all the single brothers that asked her hand in marriage that she was in a relationship. Most of the brothers that wanted to marry her then later got married. She probably thought that an undefined relationship would lead to marriage, only for the brother to come to her house one day with his wedding invitation. She fainted, as she could not withstand the shock
A lot ladies have missed their marital opportunities because of this....
Define your relationship to avoid wasted time and regret.
Don’t build your life, destiny and relationship on assumption!
When a brother hangs around you all the time or try to "canopy" your life, sit him down and ask him " Are you the "Messiah" or I should be expecting another one? 😅😅So that you can know where you stand.
Don’t accept a relationship that is going nowhere. Let no one hold you down for no reason.
Don't go into a relationship with a man who is not ready to settle down. Dating an unserious person is a waste of time and resources.
Avoid a relationship that adds no value to your life. Avoid a relationship that has no future. Avoid any relationship that has no direction, purpose or aim.
If all you do is to sleep with each other instead of building your relationship on sexual purity and discussing things that will benefit your life then that relationship is a waste of time and destiny. Run for your dear life... Avoid any relationship that will keep you far away from God.
When you see signs that a relationship can't work, there is no need remaining into it. You are not a TREE. flee from it. Don't keep managing. Time is an expensive commodity!
Avoid time-wasters. Life is too short to be wasted on an undefined relationship.
Let your relationship be defined.. ✍✍
May your marital timing not be wasted by a "canopy minister" 😊😊😊
