30/04/2026
“Kneel before your husband every day for blessings.” That statement is spreading quickly, and at first hearing, it sounds spiritual, even admirable. But when we look more closely, we must ask what spirit is truly behind it.
Marriage is sacred. It is not a stage for domination, nor is it a place where one becomes an object of daily reverence. A husband has a role, yes. He is called to love, to lead, to protect, and to pray for his family. He is called to grow into spiritual responsibility. But that calling does not make him God.
There is only one Lord, and His Name is Jesus Christ. No man, no matter how loving or responsible, takes His place in the life of a woman. The moment we begin to speak of a husband as “lord” or “god” in a literal sense, we quietly shift devotion away from God, and that is where confusion begins.
Yes, a husband should bless his wife. His words should carry grace, encouragement, and prayer. But a wife is not called to live in daily kneeling before her husband as though he were divine. Rather, both husband and wife are called to kneel before God. That is where their strength comes from. That is where their unity is formed.
True Christian marriage is not about who stands above and who kneels below. It is about walking side by side, under God. It is about mutual love, mutual sacrifice, and mutual respect. The man leads, not with pride, but with humility. The woman honors, not with fear, but with dignity. Each one lifts the other, and together, they look upward to God.
Respect is part of our African heritage, and it is beautiful. But respect must never become worship. Honor must never become submission without dignity. When these lines are crossed, what looks like culture can quietly become error.
A home built on truth is a home where the man knows how to kneel before God before asking anyone to honor him. It is a home where the woman knows her worth in God and does not lose herself in misplaced devotion. It is a home where both understand that they are not each other’s destination, but companions on the journey to God.
In the end, no marriage will stand on who kneels before whom. It will stand on whether both have learned to kneel before God.
