14/10/2020
Some people find it hard to accept failure. When you grow up in an environment where perfectionism is a must and failure is unacceptable, you naturally grow up being afraid of failure. When youâve experienced adverse effects of previous failures, you acquire the fear of failing again.
You get butterflies in your stomach every time you think about disappointing the people you love. Youâd hate for them to be humiliated because of your failure so you try to avoid doing anything that can cause you, and them, to lose face in front of other people.
A favorite excuse of people who fear failure is the saying âbetter safe than sorryâ. When you have an irrational fear of failing, you donât give yourself the chance to succeed. Youâd rather stay âsafeâ in your comfort zone. You donât challenge yourself. Youâre too afraid to try anything new. Or if you do try, you quit far too early because you doubted yourself and didnât think youâd ever succeed. Having this mindset is a huge barrier to your success. Self-growth is at the bottom of your priorities.
Risks are inherent when taking on new challenges. When you donât take risks, you avoid failing. But smart and well-disciplined people know that not all risk is bad. In fact, risk can be mitigated by studying and calculating the odds of success.
When setting yourself up to reach a new goal, you try to learn all the details about what you hope to do so you know if your goal is feasible and achievable. If you go back to Chapter 1 and apply the methods Iâve taught about choosing, specifying and visualizing your goal, then youâre essentially giving yourself no other choice but to succeed.
Being meticulous with your goal planning is important to minimize risk and failure. If you visualize the process as I showed you in the first chapter, then you should be able to overcome your fear of failure. You will know the exact steps you need to take to realize your goal and youâre essentially leaving very little to chance.
God help us
