Evangelist Vicky Children's Bible Club

10/03/2026

*HOW TO TRAIN CHILDREN WHO CAN SURVIVE WITHOUT YOU*

1. *Stop Doing Everything for Them*
In many homes:
Mummy washes.
Mummy cooks.
Mummy packs bag.
Mummy reminds about homework.
Mummy f!ghts teachers.
Mummy solves every problem.
And the child?

Just exists.

If your 14-year-old cannot:
– Wash their clothes
– Cook simple meals
– Iron their uniform
– Organize their schedule
Then something is wrong.

Example:
Ada goes to university and doesn’t know how to boil rice.
Not because she is dull.
But because nobody allowed her learn.
Teach life skills early.
Independence starts at home.

2. *Teach Decision Making Early.*
Some parents control everything:
“What will you wear?”
“What will you study?”
“Who will you befriend?”
“What course will you choose?”
Then at 20, the child cannot decide anything without calling home.

Allow small decisions early:

✔ Let them choose outfits sometimes
✔ Let them manage small money
✔ Let them solve minor conflicts
✔ Let them take responsibility for mistakes
Mistakes are training ground for maturity.

3. *Teach Financial Responsibility* .
Many young adults struggle because:
They never handled money before.

Teach them:
– How to save
– How to budget
– The value of hard work
– That money doesn’t grow on trees
Give them small responsibilities.
Even if it’s:
“Here is your transport money for the week, manage it.”
Financial wisdom builds survival skills.

4. *Build Emotional Strength.*
Some children collapse at the smallest disappointment because:
They were never allowed to face discomfort.

Parents shield them from everything.
But life will not shield them.
Teach them:
✔ How to handle rejection
✔ How to handle failure
✔ How to apologize
✔ How to bounce back
When your child fails an exam, don’t rescue immediately.
Guide them through recovery.
Resilience is survival skill.

5. *Stop Making Them Afraid of You.*
If your child fears you, they may obey you.
But they won’t develop confidence.
Children who survive without parents are children who:
– Think independently
– Speak up
– Ask questions
– Solve problems
Fear produces dependency.
Confidence produces independence.

6. *Teach Practical Skills.*
By teenage years, your child should know:
– Basic cooking
– Laundry
– Cleaning
– How to talk respectfully
– How to ask for help
– Basic safety awareness
Don’t say:
“They will learn when they marry.”
That mentality has destroyed many.
Marriage is not training school.
Home is.

7. *Teach Faith and Values*
If you are faith based, teach them:
– Personal prayer
– Moral boundaries
– Integrity
– Self control
Not just church attendance.
A child who knows their values can stand firm when you are not there.

Parents Listen.

Your children will leave for university.
They will travel abroad.
They will marry.
They will face decisions without you beside them.
And that is when your parenting will speak.
Not your shouting.
Not your control.
But the training you gave them.
Don’t raise children who need you forever.
Raise children who are strong because of you.

Your goal is not to make them dependent.
Your goal is to make yourself gradually unnecessary.
That is real success in parenting.
Because the greatest gift you can give your child is not money.
It is the ability to stand alone and still stand well.

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23/02/2026

Teachings from My Mother That Once Felt Harsh

I have come to realize that there is a noticeable difference between the parenting of earlier generations and that of today.

Back then, parenting often seemed strict, sometimes even harsh, but it carried weight. When parents spoke, their words lingered. Their instructions echoed in your conscience long after they were given.

Many of the rules my mother taught us once sounded harsh. Today, they feel wise and necessary. They remain vivid in my memory:

1. Never enter your parents’ room or anyone’s house without knocking.
Respect people’s privacy.

2. Never give out my property without my knowledge.
Always ask permission before sharing what does not belong to you.

3. Youth does not come twice.
Use it wisely. Avoid bad company.

4. Do not send an elderly person on errands for you.
If circumstances make it unavoidable, do so with humility and respect.

5. Behave like a Christian child.
Do not adopt lifestyles your parents never lived.

To my brothers, she would ask: Have you ever seen your father smoking?
Do not develop habits that dishonour your upbringing.

6. If you violate school rules and are asked to bring your parents, go and look for new parents.
"I will not represent what my parents never practiced".

7. Stop chewing recklessly like an irresponsible child, so you won't
waste important money on what does not matter. Learn to save.

8. Do not keep friends just for gossip.
Choose friends who positively influence your life.

9. Never send anyone on an errand without saying “please,” regardless of age.
Do not act act as though it is your right.

10. When scooping soup from a pot, be respectful. Whether it is my pot or someone else’s, do not take all the meat simply because it belongs to your mother. Charity begins at home.

11. When visiting someone, even relatives, do not sleep and wake at the same time as your host. Do not allow the homeowner to rise and begin chores while you are still asleep. Conduct yourself like a child from a responsible home.

12. Not everything is taught in the classroom.
Always apply common sense.

These lessons were not delivered in a single lecture. One misbehaviour after another led to each correction.

Today, what once felt harsh feels necessary.

So I ask: What advice will your children always remember?

Never forget; parenting is a baton. It is passed from one generation to another, carrying both the positive and the negative.


Kids and Teens Development Outreach

23/02/2026

Children are not merely the church of tomorrow, they are the assignment of today. Therefore, they must be intentionally equipped, nurtured, and empowered for the work of the Kingdom.

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20/02/2026

Warning to Parents ..( The Silence Cry of a Child Under Pressure)

Parents need to be mindful of what they call discipline. Some actions described as discipline are not corrective measures but acts of inhumanity. A child should never be threatened in order to pass an examination; instead, they should be encouraged and supported. Positive encouragement builds confidence and helps a child perform better.

Recently, a teacher shared an incident about a test given to pupils. One particular child, whose mother frequently complains and verbally abuses teachers, was suspected of copying answers from her notebook during the test. Despite strict supervision, the act initially went unnoticed. After further investigation, it was confirmed that the child had indeed copied.

The child was taken to the manager’s office and asked why she cheated at such a young age. She responded that she did it because of her mother. When asked to explain, she said her mother would kill her if she failed. To avoid being harmed, she felt she had to do whatever it took to pass. This was a child not even nine years old.

She further revealed that the last time her mother claimed she had failed, she beat her with a knife, injuring her.

During a private conversation with her class teacher, the child admitted that she felt like killing herself for being caught. The teachers were deeply saddened by her story. Sadly, the mother’s behaviour also influences how she treats the school and its staff, often accusing teachers of being unprofessional.

This situation is heartbreaking and unacceptable. Discipline should never involve fear, violence, or threats. As parents, you must create safe environments where children feel supported, valued, and loved. Encouragement, patience, and understanding will always produce better results than intimidation and abuse.

Ephesians 6:4 (NIV)
“Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”

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16/02/2026

The Influence of Parenting on Children’s Speech and Behaviour

It has often been observed that many children who speak carelessly or use foul language toward others are influenced by the environment in which they are raised. In many cases, children mirror what they see and hear at home. Without broader life experience, they may grow up believing that such behaviour is normal and acceptable.

I recently listened to a school manager who spoke with deep concern about the increasing use of hurtful language among primary school children. She shared a troubling incident in which a child told a classmate, “You people are very poor. I didn’t know your parents were this poor. Even your shoes show how poor you are.”

Hearing this was heartbreaking. Words like these can deeply wound a child’s self-esteem and sense of belonging. When such negative speech begins at an early age, one cannot help but wonder what kind of adult that child may become if the behaviour is not corrected.

This is not about labeling or hating any child. Rather, it highlights the powerful influence of parenting and caregiving. In many situations, children who habitually speak harshly have been exposed to similar communication patterns at home.

While external influences do exist, a child’s primary foundation is usually shaped within the family.

Ephesians 4:29 says “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying".

Therefore, parents especially mothers, who often spend significant time nurturing their children, should be intentional about modeling kindness, respect, and empathy.

A child’s character is largely formed by what they consistently see and hear.

Negative behaviour at home can unintentionally affect other innocent families through the actions of your children.

Raising children with strong moral values, compassion, and self-control is not only a gift to them but also a responsibility to society as a whole.

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