19/10/2021
DEFINE YOUR RELATIONSHIP, IT HELPS YOU KNOW WHERE YOU BOTH ARE HEADING TOWARDS.
One Faithful day I came across my neighbor she was just coming back from work, we greeted and started talking, then she called my name "Nenfort" i want to ask you something, I said you can go on am listening.
She asked me! Nenfort how does it feel to love someone and your partner does not reciprocate same love back, the first thing I asked her was on what grounds was the relationship built upon. She explained how the both of them started dating then I realized that their relationship was not clearly defined from the beginning.
Before you begin any relationship, be it love relationship, business among others make sure you define the relationship so you won't be expecting what you partner cannot give.
Make sure that person knows God and the principles of Gods love and what Gods love requires of us as His children.
STEPS TO DEFINE YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND KNOW IF YOU CAN SETTLE DOWN WITH YOUR PARTNER.
1. Know your likes and dislike; tell each other what you like and don't like, tell each other what things that tend to make you get angry and what lights up your world it will enable you both go a long way in knowing what to avoid doing to each other.
2. Define where your relationship is heading towards; this part is very important, sometimes people go into relationship with people who don't want to get married and expect marriage from such people, sit down and define your relationship to know if it just a relationship that will last for how many years.
3. Establish a understanding on how to settle misunderstanding; a lot of relationship that would have lead to a great marriage have being put to and end because both parties cannot handle their misunderstanding very well. Establish a common ground for each other.
4. Discuss how you want your home to be; a serious relationship must be built upon the hope and faith to build a home in time to come, so if you come across a partner that avoids talking about the future with you, know they are not ready to settle down with you.
5. Pay attention to how your partner reacts to anger and situation that requires forgiveness; you need to make sure your observe how your partner reacts to anger and how long it takes them to forgive you when you wrong them, 60% of the happiness of your relationship and marriage depends on this point.
6. Make sure you both know each others relations; if you are in a relationship with someone and they don't introduce you to anyone close to them for Six month or more be careful such people may just want to use and dump you.
7. The both of you must be able to control your spending; people tend to ignore this part because they focus on how to please each other sometimes when the relationship is new, but the both of you must be able to know what you need to get and know what you want and know how to spend money, if you really have a future to plan for you must control how you spend money.
8. Watch how they treat and relate others; before you start any relationship make sure you take a close look at how your partner treats mostly their family members, because that is where there love is build upon, how they treat their family is how they will treat yours.
9. Avoid third party mediator in every misunderstanding; I strongly believe that any partner that cannot solve 90 of their relationship issue together are not ready for marriage, for any relationship to last make sure you don't tell everyone your relationship problem every relationship has their own problem sometimes.
10. Make sure you both are ready to sacrifice for each other; both parties in a relationship must learn to sacrifice for each other by seen each other's need, it could be physical or emotional need, not until they ask, it help build and establish a good relationship.
The above point are meant to help us understand that we need to define our relationship and look at how our partner handle life issues life.
When a relationship is grounded on God and his principles of Love, commitment and forgiveness their is nothing such relationship cannot achieve through the help of divine understanding.
May God help us to find partner that is ready to build and establish a common ground and home of growth together.
Let Love and Peace rule our Hearts.
© Ishaku Nenfort Bwangzum
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