Singles and Married Ministry

09/08/2022

TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERNS.
I was supposed to graduate with a First-Class but made 2:1(second class upper) because a lecturer vowed that I can't be the best student ever in Computer Science Department.

What was my offence?

He said I was so insolent to publicly correct a wrong notion he postulated in class during one of his lectures, also, since he didn't graduate with a First Class then nobody else would be in the department as long as he is alive.

This happened about 12 years ago.

He was the head of the conspiracy that marked me down in my final year...

I was very depressed the day I collected my call-up letter to the National Youth Service Corps and saw I was posted to Kebbi one of the educationally less developed states in the country.

Going out of the school, I met Dr. Irukefe at the walkway and he said " I heard about your posting."

He laughed and continued " It doesn't cost much to give your details to someone at NYSC, I want to see how your computer knowledge will be useful in a state where you can count the number of computers, you felt you know something l will see how you will make it in this profession. Best of Luck". And he walked away.

I was stunned because I wanted to serve in Lagos, so this was how I got Kebbi.

Later, a reliable source told me he said that I should thank my stars that he didn't make me have an extra year in school.

I didn't know the hatred was so much.
I was diligent in my studies because of my poor background, my parent struggled to send me to school.

I went to the NYSC camp in Dakingari, very discouraged because I wanted to serve in Lagos where an IT firm had promised to pay me 20,000 Naira apart from my NYSC allowance.

Three days to the end of the camp, a man came asking if there is anyone who can repair a Laptop computer. I volunteered and successfully repaired it. He said his thanks, collected my phone number, and left. He didn't even pay me for my effort.

I thought I was going to teach in a school, When I received ma

22/07/2022

*SET SEXUAL BOUNDARIES FOR YOUR OWN GOOD*

_Gbile Akanni_

Sexual immorality is on the increase all over the world. Adultery is fast becoming the norm and men of God are also joining the club. Married men and women are not left out, many are having secret lovers and emotional affairs are becoming the order of the day.

The rate at which immorality is increasing is alarming! It is spreading fast into every nook and cranny and children are also being initiated into the club. It's no news that 8-10 years old kids now have s*x with each other. Staying s*xually pure these days is becoming a Herculean task.

One of the reasons people fall flat into illicit s*x is . *The wrong belief that you can be free around the opposite s*x and nothing would happen is a big lie from the pit of hell, meant to deceive people. - A lot will happen!*

One of the ways you can stay s*xually pure whether married or single these end time is to *set .* If you are too careless around the opposite s*x, you will fall flat on your face! That is the truth. The earlier you believe this and work on it, the better. You can't be careless around the opposite s*x and hope to stay s*xually pure, *set boundaries!*

There are some people who can't be your friends, it's okay to raise the standard. Any body can call you names, that's their headache, you have your destiny to protect.

As a rule, I don't make friends with liars, gossips and jealous people. They make life so complicated. If you believe in illicit s*x, we can't be friends, period!

*Monitor your chats. Don't allow anybody send you flirty messages, no matter how innocent it sounds, warn them and if they refuse to stop, block them!*

Limit the hugs and touches, especially with the opposite s*x. If your hugging anointing is only for me, I want none of it.

*Don't allow anybody call you pet names* (except your close family members and close same s*x friends maybe), a friend recently made me realise that, it doesn't.

19/07/2022

One of the major challenges with the Nigerian marriage is not usually the wife but the husband. Let me explain.

Even when a woman marries a man she doesn’t love, she is bound by obligation to stay loyal to him and over time, that loyalty becomes her character.

She is bound to cook for him, be present for him, respect him, raise his seeds and preserve the household.

She cannot just hang with friends or sustain her male companions, it is prohibited.

As a matter of fact every part of her social life will be influenced by that marriage. The society will never support her should she behave otherwise.

The moment any woman adhere to these rules for years, she inadvertently begins to grow fond of her husband. It is only a matter of time before obligation becomes love.

My point is that, a wife is more likely to fall in love with her husband by virtue of obligation than a man is to fall in love with his wife.

A woman’s primary instinct after bride price is paid is to make her marriage work and to create a healthy environment for her children to live in.

But a man’s primary instinct is provision not loyalty. Many Nigerian men believe that providing the needs of family somehow gives them an excuse to cheat.

That is why when a wife complains of her husband’s promiscuity, the first question everyone checks is : Hope he’s providing for you and the kids sha and when the answer is Yes, the judgements becomes less critical.

It is not that wives don’t cheat too, many Nigerian women cheat but it is more stressful compared to a man cheating.

A wife cannot just walk into a hotel room, seat on a man’s legs at the lounge or even visit a man without raising suspicion.

She has to be really careful to avoid being seen. Even the most hardcore of women still tread secretly because the minute that man finds out,

She may be out of that marriage and trust me, No woman wants that stigma of being chased out of marriage.

But the case is different with husbands and I bet you that 7 ou

11/07/2022

BEAUTIFUL STORY 🥰❤️❤️
My wife was sleeping next to me... and all of a sudden I got a Facebook notification, and a woman asked me to add her. So I added her.

I accepted the friend request and sent a message asking, "Do we know each other?"
She replied: "I heard you got married but I still love you." 😧

She was a friend from the past. She looked very beautiful in the picture.

I closed the chat and looked at my wife, she was sleeping soundly after her exhausting day of work.

Looking at her, I was thinking about how she feels so safe that she can sleep so comfortably in a completely new home with me.

She is far from her parents' house, where she spent 24 hours surrounded by her family. When she was upset or sad, her mother was there so she could cry in her lap. Her sister or brother would tell jokes and make her laugh. Her father would come home and bring her everything she liked and still, she placed so much trust in me.

All these thoughts came to mind, so I picked up the phone and pressed "BLOCK".

I turned to her and slept next to her.

I am a man, not a child. I have sworn to be faithful to her and so it will be. I will fight forever to be a man who doesn't cheat on his wife and tear a family apart...

May God bless all faithful men

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10/07/2022

Mrs Cynthia Okpara went to her husband's office to report him to his boss. She told her husband's boss how her husband Mr Odogwu Okpara usually squander his N60,000 salary and only gave her N30,000 for upkeep.

After her narration, the boss told her to come back on the last day of the month.

On the said day, she arrived as planned. The boss called Mr Odogwu and they all sat down in the boss' office.

The boss started,' Mr. Odogwu, your wife reported to me some days ago that you squander your salary outside and only give the family N30,000 for upkeep. So right now, I'm going to personally hand over your salaries to her from today henceforth.'

'How much is your transportation to work daily?', the boss asked.
'N900 sir', Mr. Odogwu replied.
The boss handed over N19,800 to Mr. Odogwu. 'That should take you for 22 days'.

'Do you take breakfast at home?', the boss continued.
'No sir, I leave home very early to beat traffic jam'.
'How much do you spend on breakfast and lunch daily?'
'N500 sir',replied Mr. Odogwu.
The boss handed over N11,000 to Mr. Odogwu.

'Who pays the children's school fees', the boss asked facing Mrs. Okpara.
'He does', she replied pointing at Mr. Odogwu.
'How much is the school fees and how many kids have you?'
'N30,000 per term for the two kids we have?'
'In other words, you save N10,000 monthly for each term's school fees right?'
'Yes sir', replied Mr. Odogwu.
Once again, the boss handed N10,000 to him.

'Who pays the rent and how much is it?'
'I do sir. The rent is N36,000 per annum.' Mr. Odogwu replied.
'That's N3,000 monthly right?', the boss added as he handed over N3,000 to Mr. Odogwu

'I don't want to ask about clothings, electricity bills, etc as I know both of you might be handling that', the boss said as he handed over N16,200 to Mrs. Okpara
'What's this for sir', Mrs. Okpara asked surprised.
'Money for upkeep', the boss replied her.
'But it wouldn't take us anywhere', she exclaimed.
'So why don't you appreciate the N30,000 your husband

10/07/2022

I had a quarrel with my wife yesterday morning. She was angry with me and I was also very angry with her. I tried to tell her what she did was bad, and all I wanted was for her to accept corrections.

She in turn had her own reasons for doing what she did, and she blames it on me for making her do what she had done. Not until I accept my own mistake, she was not ready to accept hers.

We shouted vehemently at each other before I left the house. I had no time to listen to her anymore, as I was already tired of exchanging words and as such, I was already running late for work.

While walking away she said to me.

"Come back here. So you are now running? Keep running. Run and I will be here waiting for you. But just know there will be no dinner for you. In fact, I won't cook for you anymore."

"Who even wants to eat your food? I will not eat." I fired back at her angrily before driving off.

That day after work, while driving home, I thought to myself. Hence she was not going to be cooking for me, I in turn decided to stay back late and not eat. I stopped by at a friends house and we got talking for a while. He was married and his wife had also become a very good friend of my wife.

They asked me what had happened and why I had refused going home. I explained things to them. I told them about the fight I had with my wife that morning, and how she had failed to see things my way. We laughed over it. They tried to advise me to go home, but I noticed they were also careful not to take sides.

I later returned home by 10pm that night. Although I was no more angry, I had prepared myself for the worst.

When I got back home I found my food long served on the dining. It was still warm. I was famished and walked to the plates already salivating. When I opened them the aroma of a sweetly cooked vegetable soup welcomed me. I didn't waste anytime. I immediately sat down and began to eat.

While eating my wife appeared behind me. She wrapped her arms around my neck and whisp

10/07/2022

UNDERSTANDING YOUR SEXUALITY LIMIT AS CHRISTIAN: SINGLE OR MARRIED

After blowing hot on the pulpit, they receive blow job in their hotel rooms....

Do you know why? Sexuality doesn't respect spirituality.... When it comes to Sexuality, you can only WIN by embracing the truth of your Sexuality and living in the CONSCIOUSNESS of what you know about yourself.

As a pastor, a very close sister once asked to be accommodated in my house and I was living in a big house with extra rooms... Zama and my son were in Cape Town so it would be me and that sister living in that house.... So I told her that I couldn't help her since my family weren't around...I sent her some money and encouraged her to find who to share a space with.... She got angry and blocked me even here on fb... She was disappointed that I even mentioned that something could happen if she moved in to my house.... But I was just being honest. She's a grown woman and I'm a young man....
We are not related and the Sexuality of a man doesn't understand "He is my mentor or she is my mentee"... So embracing your own truth will help you make good decisions.... The pastors who usually get into s*xual troubles are the ones who always feel like they are DEPUTY JESUS....

You see, once you exaggerate your ability to withstand s*xual temptations as a man, you are a fool who is about to litter his seeds all over the place.
Embrace the truth that your Sexuality is louder than your spirituality.... You can slide from speaking in tongues with a sister to kissing her.... It doesn't make you a false prophet but it just means that you were religiously arrogant to think that your spirituality can protect you from your Sexuality.

Before you remind me of self control here, please calm down.... Follow patiently.... We are going somewhere.... The best self control you can exercise with regards to your Sexuality is to FLEE..... As far as you share that private space, boy oh boy, what makes you a man will manifest and you may mess

10/07/2022

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10/07/2022

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