16/01/2026
HOW I LOST MY VIRGINITY TO AN "APOSTLE OF THE GOSPEL"
I am sharing my story so you won't fall the way I fell. The greatest lesson I want you to learn from this is this: "Not everyone that comes in the name of the Lord is sent by the Lord"..
So I'm this lady that loves God so much and I passionately hate this thing called "Sexual immorality". Oh I detest it with passion..
In fact I guide myself against the opposite s*x and create enough boundaries that at a point I was being tagged that my standard is too high, I'm an Iron lady..and lots more, which I don't care..
So at the point I was 28 years in age, trusting God for a suitor for a life partner with a perfect picture of this is how I want my man to be and look like.. At the time I was in my final year In school (Oyschst). Of course, everyone was concerned about marital settlement praying earnestly and myself watching and waiting who's to come..
(Have I mentioned that my Spiritual father trusted me so much that he used to say to me that he has nothing to worry about me when it comes to s*xual purity because at the time I was still intact and also a Sexual purity ambassador under Daddy Victor Olukoju PVO, raising the banner of purity all over with multiple shoulder packs that despite where I was born and raised, God has helped me to remain intact up to this age, there's nothing anybody anywhere wants to tell me that's enough reason/excuse to be s*xually impure).
So that's how I carry myself everywhere. At my place of work, I started talking to the ladies (We're all ladies in my department "Pharmacy") to abstain from all level of immorality, preached against co-habitation and everything immorality..
Little did I know that I was going to be victim of everything I had preached against..So sad😭
So on a good day this Old/Young man chatted me up on Facebook messenger. Me on a normal day I don't take stuffs like that seriously, but the moment I checked the messages I noticed he has been consistent for a while. Just a random courtesy greetings from Apostle. So
I checked up his profile and I was wowed like this person is an esteemed man of God and Apostle at that and I've been on and off in the chat like what..
So I responded well and it continued from there. He didn't ask me out in the first place..Oh he came so well prepared.
He started building friendship and trust with me..
Our first meeting place was my church (I made it so, so he'll know what he's coming to meet, not knowing that I'm the one being set up here). The day he came to my church I sensed a very strange presence around him. It was very strange because I couldn't sit close to him. At a point we were talking from distance. (But I was not discerning enough or should I say I was caught up in the Aura of a fine man that knows God and he's serving God, a perfect picture of who I want my man to be or 'Answered prayer'). So I confronted him that what's up with him with the atmosphere he came with and he answered, "he has been praying for days before coming to meet me and all.." Little did I know that I was being fooled big time..
Pls note: During all of this, I didn't carry my spiritual father along o. I felt it's a normal thing. Moreover, I have handled such scenarios like that in the past so there's nothing to worry about. GREAT MISTAKE!
So from the church meeting, it grew to dates outdoors. He'll take me to places to hangout and majorly our topic of discussion is kingdom related; how he has been on campus tour for crusades, revival and so on..This went on for weeks/months and later as the friendship grew I got to know that he resides close to my place of work..
In the long run, he asked me out for a Marital relationship, and at this point I told him I can't be in a relationship with him not even any man without the full consent and permission of my spiritual father which he agreed to.
So I told him to hold on while I also pray about the proposal as I was also rounding up for my Board exams in school.
So I felt after my final exams, I'll meet my father and tell him everything, little did I know that I was setting myself up for danger..
This man will come to my school unannounced with gifts, he'll send me money a lot like that, cheering me up for my final papers while he also travels for ministerial assignments..
On the long run, we agreed the relationship is pending until my spiritual father sees him and everything is being submitted to him but we continued being friends and and he didn't stop doing the dos he was doing for me too..
I fell stupidly and cheaply for Apostle, and of course during all of the hangouts we already discussed the subject of s*xual purity in a Christian relationship, not to mention of Apostle relationship to another child of God..
Things continued and later I started checking up on him at his place because of the proximity to my place of work as I was also staying at the staff quarters at my place of work then.. He'll make me comfortable, at times lunch/dinner at work lorisirisi🥶
So a day came and he invited me over to his place and it started with a harmless chat like we use to and we started kissing, from there romance came in. At a point I resisted and ran out of his place. Then I fought him that this is a great sin against God and all, it shouldn't have happened and he apologized and after a few days things came back to normal and I now visit his place freely, he also checks up on me at work randomly with gifts..
Another day came like that and I was at his place and we started romancing again thinking within me that I'll control myself like I did the other day and it'll not happen (Meanwhile I had begged Apostle at a time during our chats that no matter what, if I got blinded by emotions He shouldn't let anything Sexual happen between us, that I was going to watch it too so we should watch out for one another by ourselves) the tension grew high and I was begging Apostle to do it that day, he didn't even blink he did it and that was it..After the whole show, I started loosing myself, reality dawned on me that all my shoulder packs are gone..
Then Apostle started manipulating me (I didn't see it as such until after my deliverance came and I was restored that the Holy Spirit took me through the journey and I saw how everything played out) into seeing it as nothing. He claimed the Bible said "It's marriage that's honorable and Bed undefiled, not relationship of a man to woman before marriage." Then he started following me everywhere - church, place of work, my prayers mountains, my parents place. He started attaching himself to me that created awareness at my place of work at a point and people were asking me who he was that I had to lie that he's a distant cousin that just came back to the city because I was too ashamed of myself because most of my colleagues do see me when I started sleeping over at his place and I'll from there go to work, so they were so curious that what's happening, but they couldn't confront me because they knew who I was and what I was standing for back then.
He manipulated me so much, turned the scripture upside down..Then when I tried to raise the issue of going to see my spiritual father, he'll fight me for days that I'll have to beg him..
Then he started turning me against my spiritual father stating that where is it in the Bible. At some point I was having trouble with my phone and he was saying all sorts that can't the man I claim to be my father buy me a good phone that that's his role, blackmailing him..
He also said that he's already looked into his profile on Facebook, he's going to give him trouble; I should let it be, that Daddy (my spiritual father) will not allow him to marry me..
And the manipulation continues... then I started loosing myself.
The s*x was not frequent as he had already achieved what he wanted.
One night I can never forget in the story, I was at his place and we were seated outside in the compound chatting, then my spiritual father called that where was I at the time, of course I couldn't say the truth so I lied I was in the staff lodge and he told me to come that he's in my hospital he came to check on someone, so I quickly left him and I went to see Daddy. On returning back to him he was angry that I left. I begged again after we resolved that. Then he started talking that he's the one that knows what he went through before getting me..
That do I know how long he has been planning my case. He said he has been following me for years studying me to know who I was and how to make his plans..He mentioned the name of my church; he mentioned that he knew I was a s*xual purity advocate and he knows that PVO is a very strict and disciplined man that he already knows what he's up against..Oh he said a lot even to my spiritual father and that's why he doesn't want me to have anything to do with him again that he's already planning on the wedding that it'll just happen on a normal day no paparazzi whatever. Meanwhile, he had manipulated me against my Boss at work so much that that year I got close to 10 query letters at work and my Boss's wife was already planning on something to hold against me and serve me sack letter..(The only thing holding her back was there was no offence against me yet that warranted such). So it continued like that and I was sinking deep deep down. On many occasions, no offence, Apostle will just be angry at me and I'll have to beg him for days. He started bringing different ladies home when I go to work to continue his business. He used two phones fully passworded. One day I got access to both phones' password (I don't know how) and I saw different chats on fb messenger with ladies and still nothing clicked in me to resist this man...
I lost myself so much that I was afraid to loose him so everything and anything he did, I didn't care as long as he was still in my life..
Pls note again sir, that the intimacy was not frequent in the relationship..
In the long run, I got to know that Apostle actually had a woman living with him before in the house that all his son and daughters knows to be their Mama, that they use to travel together for ministration with their pictures on fliers up and down. But because of his promiscuous lifestyle and Apostle not ready to marry her because I came into the picture, the lady left but her loads were carefully kept in a safe place in the House. (I saw this too and it didn't occur to me to leave).
But on one blessed day, when it seemed I was at the edge inside the staff lodge, I was alone in the House and I cried to God, ohh I cried that I lost track of time to go and resume the night shift..I was there from morning till around 6pm. Normally, night shift at my place of work resumes 5pm. I was tired and it was just like God should come down that day, we should see and tell me what's happening with my life..
I gathered the remaining strength left in me to resume duty that night and I continued at work during the night..
The following morning God came through my spiritual father and Daddy called me that fateful morning that I should come and see him that day with the person I told him I was seeing the night he came to the hospital to check on someone..
Thank God Apostle didn't travel for any ministration. I just called him to dress up that we'll be going to see my spiritual father that day, and he picked up fight again that he'll not follow me that I should go alone he needs to set out on a journey to a campus in Eruwa. I had to beg him again and again and pet him till he followed me to my Father's office..
Hmmnn, that was the beginning of my liberation. When we got to Daddy's office that day, Daddy told me to leave where I was seated so he could speak with him directly face to face, Man to Man. As Daddy started speaking, it was as if he knew everything that had been happening in the relationship with me and the atmosphere changed that myself I couldn't contain it, oh I wept bitterly, it was as if I brought Apostle to a higher authority to discipline him for the way he had been treating me so far...
Lastly before we left Daddy's office, he turned to me and made a statement that if after I come to tell him that this is the way I want to go, he'll bless the relationship and release us, but sincerely that was the first time I ever saw my father in such mood ever since I've met him..
After the meeting that day, you already know the outcome. Apostle was mad at me for days that I was pleading with him again but then, it's like something happened with me that day after our meeting with Daddy.
Little did I know that as we left, my father also knew something was wrong and he had been doing his background findings.
Then one faithful weekend, he called me on phone that I should come to his House that I've not gotten back to him concerning Apostle's matter and I said okay that I was going to come..
That day was on a Saturday and Apostle was expecting me at his place to come cook for the weekend, and I already knew that if I tell him that I was going to Daddy's place, he'll not allow me so I lied that I had to go and see my parents that day, so that was how I went to my spiritual father's place. Daddy sat me down and instructed me to start speaking. That was how I now narrated the whole story to my father without adding or removing anything from it..
Oh Daddy wept that day. After that, he then told me that the day I came to see him with Apostle, he only spoke as led by God and afterwards he wasn't comfortable and he had to make a background so he found out that Apostle was already married to a woman when he was on campus and they had two children - a boy and a girl. That the woman left and Apostle was not taking responsibility over the children, then he started changing women as he desires up to the one I saw her things at his place..A lot was discovered concerning Apostle and that day Daddy called him on phone to break the relationship for me with a stern warning to stay away from me..
With follow up from my father, that was the end of the relationship with Apostle..
Now after the whole restoration, I came to realize some great mistakes of mine too..
1. I was fantasizing about the kind of man that I want that when Apostle came, I loose guard and I didn't even check enough to know who he truly was..
2. I was so full of myself then that at my age I was intact, nothing missing nothing broken, I forgot the scriptures that says "He who thinks he stands, should be careful lest he falls". I became a victim of everything I had preached against if not for God's quick intervention and the people he used for me.
3. I felt enough in myself that I can handle it that I didn't even deem it fit to inform my spiritual guide in the first place about everything. It was such a great error!
4. My quest for marriage and a godly man was so high that I totally forgot the God that raised me to be who I was and I dishonored him..
I suffered the consequences sir, but I'm grateful God showed me mercy and restored me again.
End.
She shared this with me personally and asked me to share so others can learn from her story.
Copied: Peniela Eniayo, Akintujoye.
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