22/04/2025
Things you must not tell your wife
In my four years of marriage, I have understood four things you must not tell your wife to avoid constant misunderstanding in your home.
These four mistakes are not usually paid attention to by most couples and have been the reasons many marriages are not moving smoothly.
I pray Allah help us identify our halal relationship issues early.
The four things a man must not tell his wife for peace to reign:
1. Do not compare her to anyone: Comparing your woman to another woman will drill a big hole in your marriage.
Every woman is unique in her ways, so when you compare your wife to others, your expectations will overshadow your marriage capacity thereby harming the relationship health.
Instead, advise your wife to become a better version of herself.
2. Do not insult your wife: I realized that repeating the mistake of using bad words on our wives can lead to constant argument.
Fine, I understand that you are the head of the family but honestly, from my experience, insulting your wife makes her lose her self esteem and worth.
She may not insult you back directly, but one thing is missing in the marriage and that's peace.
Therefore, respect your wife and speak to her with respect.
3. Avoid Threatening Divorce Constantly: Using this satanic statement used to be my favorites. I don't know why.
Anytime we are in argument with my wife, the next thing I used to say, is if you want to go, go.
Such statement is bad. Your wife will begin to doubt if you're truly in love with her.
Especially if you are the serious type.
Repeating such statement during every argument is compounding courage in your wife. One day, she won't care anymore.
That means, she doesn't care if you are divorcing her or not. Allah doesn't like divorce.
4. Do not expose her private matter to others:
This is one of the most disgusting things couples do to each other.
No matter the misunderstanding between you and your wife, don't ever mention her secret to anyone.
The reason is that, when you reconcile, regret will set in because you know her private life is already outside with strangers.
One day, someone may insult her referring to her secret you shared with them and if she understands you exposed her insecurities, may likely want to seek a revenge.
Remember, grudges can kill peace in any relationship.
It is more virtuous to better not say any of the above things to our wives if we really want peace to reign in our homes.
May Allah help us to understand and take the right measures in protecting our marriage from the trap of shaytan. Aameen.
