20/04/2026
Our April Single Summit was nothing short of transformative! Pastor Dr. Kelly Obasuyi took us on a journey of self-discovery, reminding us that singlehood isn’t a waiting room, it’s a throne room.
We walked through the 7 essential keys to master before saying “I DO”
1. Discover You (The Identity Stage) Before you can truly know someone else, you must know yourself. Based on Jeremiah 1:4-5, this stage is about asking the big questions:
Who am I?
Why am I here?
What is my specific assignment?
You aren't just a person; you are a solution to a problem God intended for you to solve.
2. Get a Life (The Vision Stage) Once you find your identity, don’t just sit on it, build on it. "Get a life" means creating a plan and a direction. It’s about taking your discovery and turning it into an "institution." Become a person of substance who has a world of their own before trying to merge it with someone else’s.
3. Redeem Your Singlehood (The Enjoyment Stage) Stop treating singlehood like a "waiting period" for your life to begin. To redeem it means to buy back the time and make it enjoyable. If you can’t be happy alone, a partner won't magically fix that. Celebrate this season!
4. Step Into Real Life (The Maturity Stage) This is the transition from theory to practice. It’s about moving away from fantasies and stepping into the responsibilities and realities of adulthood. It requires a grounded perspective on what life and relationships actually demand.
5. Serve the Lord (The Devotion Stage)There is a unique level of devotion you can give to God while single. This key emphasizes using your time, energy, and talents to serve the Kingdom without the distractions or divided interests that often come with family life.
6. Get Influenced (The Mentorship Stage) Who is speaking into your life? To "get influenced" means surrounding yourself with the right mentors, spiritual leaders, and peers who push you toward growth. You are a product of the voices you listen to.
7. Your Search Life Comes Alive (The Activation Stage) When the first six keys are in place, your "search life" becomes focused and intentional. You aren't just looking for anyone; you are looking for someone who aligns with the "you" you’ve discovered and the "life" you’ve built. Your discernment becomes sharp because you know exactly what fits your assignment.
