19/08/2024
I carry my husband's phone anytime, I know the password to his phones, email and even his facebook account,
I can access his Whatsapp anytime any day,
Infact he gave me his ATM pin while we were still in courtship.
Meanwhile, my husband knows all my passwords too.
Why am I writing this?
All these married men and women that get so agitated and paranoid anytime their spouses carry their phone,
What really is the problem? If you fall in this category, hope all is well with you? 🤷♀️
The funniest of them are those set of persons who want to maintain privacy in their marriage.
You hear them make statements like, “My wife cannot know my ATM pin oo, I don’t trust her to that extent”,
Wait oo, you don’t trust your wife?
Sir, you entered into marriage with your full chest with a person you don’t trust? 🤦🏻♀️
For another set, you will hear them say,
“How will my husband go through my phone, what’s he looking for inside there?
“My phone is my privacy”.
Aunty shift, which yeye privacy is that one?🙄
If your privacy is so important to you, why didn't you remain single?
You must understand that the day you accepted to marry that person, that day did you lost all forms of privacy,
For any marriage to work, transparency is key.
Transparency builds TRUST,
Transparency builds ONENESS,
Transparency builds UNITY,
Transparency blocks channels the enemy would have passed through to invade your home,
It makes your partner understand that you trust them so much that you can entrust something as private as your ATM pin to them.
Why will you keep your phone's password from your spouse if truly your conscience is free?
Why do you excuse yourself whenever you are with your partner and you want o make a call?
You will be hiding in your own house like a thief because only God knows who you are on the phone with 😩
If your privacy is so important to you, then why did you choose to settle down, you should have just remained like Apostle Paul and died single,
Privacy ko, privacy ni 🙄
Baba you need to be lashed fifty strokes of the kane for choosing privacy over peace,
Yes, your hiding your phone every now and then from your partner is stealing your spouse's peace of mind,
causing unnecessary suspiciousness here and there.
You need to change, you really need to change
Any conversation with anyone your spouse shouldn't be aware of should never have happened in the first place no matter who the person is,
Those chats and messages your spouse should never read shouldn't even exist in your phone at all 🤷♀️
Be transparent with your partner, stop hiding things from them.
know this and know the true definition of peace.
God's Word says, "Adam and Eve were both naked and were not ashamed",
Nakedness here doesn't only implies when you both are not wearing clothes like when you bathing together or having some sort of sexual intimacy,
Nakedness in marriage also implies being open and transparent as much as possible with your partner,
not getting to hide anything from them,
not keeping any information that pertains to you from them.
Just remain single if YOUR PRIVACY is so precious to you, marriage is not for you biko. Make you no go use privacy frustrate person pikin in the name of marriage 🤦🏻♀️
Having said all, transparency is key to a lasting marriage. Be transparent with your partner, that's what it means to be ONE 🫂 with them.
It is with love that I write ✍️ this to you.
I hope you take heed 🙏🏻
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Your Friend,
©️ Peace Ogbonna Daniel
