11/02/2023
THE DIVINE MYSTERY OF ONENESS
Week 2: Your spouse is not your friend - Part 1.
John watched as his wife rained insults on him, she even went outside to tell the neighbors that he is a useless man. The neighbors tried to calm the wife down but she didn't listen.
He could have slapped her and made her keep quiet but he held himself and died inside. He knew two wrongs cannot make a right.
What happened was that John didn't have money to pay the children's school fees that January and he begged his wife to pay.
Agnes - John's wife, paid the school fees but since that day, she will rubbish her husband, and any little thing he says, she will chew off his head.
One night recently, He came back late from the office and she fought with him all through the night because he didn't bring back enough money for foodstuffs. John gave her 10k but she wanted 25k. That was where the problem started.
The next morning, she continued quarreling and then took the matter outside their compound and disgraced him completely.
John was completely embarrassed but he didn't fight. He waited until midnight, he woke her up and told her what she did wasn't right. She woke up and began to rain another set of insults on him and ended it by saying his mates are taking their wives abroad he is here complaining about her talking.
He thought after 10 hours she would have calmed down but he was wrong. The next morning, she locked the door, held his shirt, and told him he wasn't going anywhere until he produced the remaining 15k for foodstuffs.
*To be continued.*
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When a man sees a woman he loves and tells her he wants to marry her, what he is doing is that he is applying for a job. The job is to be a gardener, a boss, to provide for her, to honor her, to respect her, and to protect her.
The woman by accepting this proposal is saying she is accepting him as the boss, she will be the assistant boss. There is no argument or competition. she is open to being cultivated, she is ready to help, to support his dreams obey him, submit to him, and pray for him every day and every night.
The working place is the marriage institution. The moment the man and woman agree and say I do. That is the day they receive their appointment letters.
*This agreement above is a covenant.*
It is not something based on feelings of friendship or I love you, I like you.
Because there will be days you will not feel that friendship or that love but you must go to work, you must do your job as the boss or the assistant boss.
Sometimes the man will not have money, but that doesn't mean he is not the boss, he is still the boss, sometimes the woman will not be reasonable, but that doesn't mean she shouldn't submit to the authority of her husband even when he doesn't agree with her ideas.
Your husband is not your friend that you can treat anyhow when you are not feeling the friendship or tell him to go to hell or call him a useless man when he cannot meet up to your needs. He is your boss that deserves respect and reverence.
Your wife is not your friend that you can treat anyhow, you will see her working and taking care of children then you will sit in the parlor and cross your legs on the table and complain that food is not ready.
*The marriage is between the husband, wife, and the spirit of God.*
That's the mystery of oneness. Don't anger each other or fight and open your home to spiritual attacks.
When you have a misunderstanding, you will come back and understand yourselves again, when you quarrel, after some time, you come back again and strengthen your bond. Nobody will do it for you because if people settle you too much, your marriage will become useless.
Next week we will talk about the implications of your job as a husband or wife.
Take Home:
The home is an important institution that must be well understood. Don't joke with your job, don't joke with your position, and don't open your home to become a laughing stock because your partner is going through hard times. Don't open your home to attack by taking advantage of your position to oppress your partner.
Until next week same day, same medium.
Remain Blessed.
Pst. Sarah Newton.
