16/07/2022
MARRIAGE:
Marriage is a relationship between a man and a woman intended by God to be monogamous relationship, intended to be permanent bond (No divorce) in which many need are satisfied... The need to love and to be loved in return, the need for deep friendship, for sharing, for companionship, for s*xual satisfaction, for children, the need to escape loneliness, marriage ought to be a bond of love, reflecting the love Christ has for his people, a bond of sacrificial love where a husband and wife have become one, one fresh, a unity.
Here is another definition of marriage that you may want to consider.. The marriage is a school, a learning and growing environment in which both partners can grow and develop. The relationship grows along with them, if you can see the marriage as opportunity for growth, you can be satisfied and satisfy your partner (no need to go outside)..
According to the sayings of Dr David Hubbard "Marriage does not demand perfection." But it must be given priority.
These are unhealthy reasons for marriage:
1✓ To spite or get back at your parents.
2✓ Because of negative self image. ( Marrying your spouse will make you worthwhile and will get meaning to your life)
3✓ Fear of being left out- Being left as bachelor or an old maid.
4✓ Fear of independence.
5✓ Marrying on the rebound.. - you were hurt in a former love relationship and to ease your hurt and you immediately choose another.
6✓ Fear of hurting the other person - you are afraid of what will happen to your fiancée if you break up even though you know that marriage is not the answer.
7✓ To escape unhappy home.
8✓ Because you're pregnant or your fiancée is pregnant.
9✓ Because you have had s*x.
Here is a few positive reasons for marriage.
1✓ Companionship.
2✓ To work together and fulfil your own and your future mates needs.
3✓ To fulfill s*xual needs in the way God intends.
4✓ Love.
5✓ Because you're convinced that it is God's will for me to marry this person.
Evaluate your marriageablity by examining personality traits of yourself and your fiancée.