10/03/2026
WHEN THE ONE WHO PREACHED PURITY ASKED ME TO BREAK IT.
This is a true story shared anonymously
Not to expose anyone.
But to open the eyes of young people.
I once knew a brother who was very active in church.
He served the Lord from a young age.
He was trusted by the saints.
He was even made a counselor for youth camps while still very young.
Many people admired him.
Parents wished their sons could grow up like him.
He taught about s*xual purity.
He spoke about honoring God with our bodies.
From the outside, he looked like a strong example.
I also come from a Christian home.
My parents has a God fearing marriage that inspires me.
Because of that, I never wanted to date someone who did not believe in God.
When this brother approached me, he did it respectfully.
He spoke about purity.
He spoke about God's will for our lives.
I accepted the relationship because I believed he was serious about living for God.
Not long after that, I had to move away to my uncle's place to finish my secondary school.
Our relationship became long distance.
I was afraid he might complain because we rarely saw each other.
But he never complained.
That made me trust him even more.
When I finished school, I was excited to go back home and finally see him again.
Unfortunately, when I arrived he had not yet closed from university.
My results came out and I needed to resit two subjects.
So I stayed in my home district to prepare for the exams.
About a month before the exams, he finally came home and called me.
He asked me to meet him at his friend’s house.
I was happy to see him after so many years.
We talked.
We laughed.
We enjoyed each other's company.
Then something changed.
He stood up and went outside.
When he came back, he sat very close to me.
I felt uncomfortable.
I asked him what he was doing.
Then he said something I never expected to hear.
He told me he wanted to have s*x with me.
I was deeply hurt.
This was the same brother who used to teach others about s*xual purity.
I immediately stood up and left.
He walked me outside looking upset and we separated.
Two days passed.
He did not call.
I called him but he refused to answer.
I sent him a message asking if the only reason he wanted me was s*x, since he disappeared after I refused.
He denied it and said he was just busy.
But nothing changed.
After some days, I decided to end the relationship.
Two days later, I received a call from a saint asking about our relationship.
That same day I refused to sleep with him, he went and slept with another sister he was also talking to for marriage.
The sister later reported the matter.
What shocked me even more was this.
The year he started getting close to that sister, he was still in a relationship with me.
He was promising both of us marriage at the same time.
I was deeply hurt.
I could not understand how someone who taught purity could live such a double life.
Even when he later claimed he still loved me, I refused to return.
It was painful.
But I had to walk away.
Since then, I have struggled with fear and trust.
Sometimes I find myself thinking that maybe all men are the same, whether believers or not.
I am sharing this because many young people believe that if someone is active in church, they automatically have strong character.
But that is not always true.
Not everyone who speaks about purity lives it.
Character is proven in private, not in public.
And if someone pressures you to break your convictions, even if they are in church, you have the right to walk away.
Purity should never be negotiated for love.
