07/03/2026
In our recent Sovereign Soul Alliance gathering, I led our community through this affirmation because I needed to hear it just as much as everyone else did.
My grief is not a problem.
My grief is a gift.
My grief is a messenger and my grief is a truth teller.
Whether we are ready to admit it or not, the barrage of disclosure without justice is doing exactly what it’s meant to: wear us down, mock our collective pain, and re-traumatize survivors and their allies.
It is perfectly natural to feel grief about the times we are living in. Further, this unresolved collective grief is triggering many individuals to go deeper in their personal healing journeys — to finally acknowledge long-held secrets within.
Society tells us to rush through grief — to move on, to heal faster, to get over it.
But that pressure doesn’t come from wisdom. It comes from discomfort.
Most people don’t even know how to grieve themselves, so our grief can make others feel uncomfortable.
And witnessing the reality of someone choosing to grieve causes them to question why they aren’t allowing themselves to grieve as well.
Giving yourself permission to grieve is a holy process.
Your grief reveals the depth of self-compassion you deserve to feel toward yourself. It’s your inner child asking to feel close with you — and there is no timeline on that.
If the child within me needs to heal for the rest of my life, I am here for it. And I will be here for her, whatever she needs, whatever it takes, however long it takes.
Your grief is a messenger and your grief is a truth teller.
Watch the full teaching — link in bio.
Explore these teachings deeper in The Sophia Code — available on Amazon.
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