Finding Home with Mike & Jen

22/03/2026

The No. 1 Goal of the Jezebel Spirit Hiding in the Family Unit

22/03/2026

Be aware of the agreements you make with Demons!

21/03/2026

The Christian life can be hard sometimes. No matter what keep trusting God and always remember He is good!

11/03/2026

The #1 Lie Narcissists Want You to Believe About Yourself
One of the deepest wounds narcissistic relationships leave behind is not just the pain of what happened… but the lie that slowly forms inside your heart.
Over time, through criticism, control, and subtle put-downs, a message begins to take root:
“I am worth nothing.”
You begin to feel small.
Insignificant.
Like your role in life is simply to support someone else’s world.
Many survivors describe feeling like they became nothing more than a shadow in the garden of the narcissist — existing only to reflect their needs, their identity, their importance.
But that lie was never your true identity.
God did not create you to live in someone else’s shadow.
You were created with dignity, purpose, and a voice that matters. The value placed on your life does not come from how someone treated you — it comes from the God who formed you and calls you His.
Sometimes healing begins the moment we recognise the lie… and allow God to replace it with truth.

10/03/2026

Gaslighting – A Narcissist’s Favourite Tool

One of the most powerful tools a narcissist uses is something called gaslighting.

Gaslighting happens when someone slowly causes you to doubt your own reality.

You remember something clearly… but they insist it never happened.
You express how something hurt you… but they tell you you're overreacting.
You question their behaviour… and somehow the conversation ends with you apologising.

Over time this creates deep confusion.

You begin to second-guess your memory.
You start wondering if you really are too sensitive.
Eventually you may even lose confidence in your own judgment.

That’s exactly the goal.

If someone can make you doubt your own perception of reality, it becomes much easier to control the narrative — and the relationship.

But truth doesn’t disappear just because someone denies it.

God is not a God of confusion.
He is the Spirit of truth, and His voice brings clarity, peace, and restoration.

If you’ve experienced gaslighting, the confusion you feel is not a sign that you’re broken. Often it’s the result of being in a deeply manipulative environment.

And healing is possible.

10/03/2026

Healing DOES Bring Peace to Your Heart

When you’ve been through deep relational wounds, it can sometimes feel like the pain will always be there.

Certain memories still sting.
Certain names still make your heart tighten.
Certain situations still stir emotions you wish were gone.

And in those moments it’s easy to wonder… Will this ever truly heal?

But healing is not a myth.

As you continue to walk the journey — bringing your wounds honestly before God, allowing truth to replace the lies, and letting your heart be restored — something begins to shift.

The pain slowly loosens its grip.

One day you may notice that a memory surfaces… and it no longer carries the same weight.
The ache that once lived in your heart has quietly lifted.

Healing doesn’t always happen all at once.

But step by step, God is able to restore what was wounded.

And one day you may wake up and realise something beautiful:

Your heart has found peace again.

10/03/2026

Why A PHYSICAL solution isn't the same as a SPIRITUAL Solution

Many people believe that once they’ve left a toxic relationship, the healing should automatically begin.

And in some ways, it does.

Creating distance from a harmful situation is an incredibly important step. It protects your heart, your mind, and your safety.

But leaving the situation doesn’t necessarily mean the deeper wounds have healed.

Often the pain, lies, and patterns formed during those years are still sitting quietly beneath the surface — shaping how you see yourself, how you trust others, and sometimes even how you relate to God.

In toxic environments, deep spiritual wounds can form. Lies about your worth. Shame that doesn’t belong to you. Patterns of fear, control, or rejection that begin to feel normal.

Simply walking away from the relationship doesn’t automatically undo those things.

Real freedom comes when those wounds are brought into the light and spiritually addressed — allowing God to heal what was formed in the darkness.

Leaving was the first step.

But restoration often begins when we invite God to heal what the relationship left behind.

09/03/2026

The “God Told Me” Manipulation

One of the most confusing dynamics in a narcissistic relationship is when someone uses God to control you.

They say things like:
“God told me you need to do this.”
“God showed me that you’re wrong.”
“God told me you should submit.”

And because you’ve been slowly worn down over time, you begin to doubt yourself. You start to believe that maybe they really do hear God more clearly… and that somehow God doesn’t speak to you.

But this is not how the Holy Spirit works.

God does not appoint one person to control another person’s life in His name.

The Holy Spirit is called the Spirit of truth and the Spirit of peace. He leads, He convicts, and He guides — but He does not manipulate, pressure, or silence your voice.

If someone constantly uses “God told me” to direct your choices, override your conscience, or shut down your questions, that is not spiritual authority. That is spiritual manipulation.

And the beautiful truth is this:
God is more than capable of speaking to you.

09/03/2026

Are You Aware of God’s Destiny & Identity for You?

When the angel of the Lord appeared to Gideon, he greeted him with surprising words:

“The Lord is with you, mighty warrior.”

But Gideon didn’t feel like a mighty warrior.
He was hiding in a winepress, threshing wheat in fear.

Everything about his circumstances, his past, and his sense of himself told a very different story.

And yet… God called out an identity in Gideon that he couldn’t yet see.

Many of us live the same way.

Our sense of who we are has been shaped by past experiences, painful relationships, cultural expectations, and the wounds we’ve carried for years. Over time those things can quietly define us — until we forget to ask the most important question:

Who does God say I am?

God’s view of you is not limited by what has happened to you.
He sees your design, your calling, and the destiny He placed inside you long before the storms of life tried to bury it.

Sometimes the first step toward freedom is rediscovering the identity God has always spoken over your life.

09/03/2026

This is one of the greatest "future" tragedies that will ever happen.

People who have heard about God, who have honoured who he is, but haven't fallen in love with who He is.

If they had fallen in love with King Jesus, they would have been ready, waiting and expectant ...

O Lord, help us never to grow complacent where you are concerned. Help us to fall more and more in love with you every day!

❤️

Photoshop of the day - I do not know you.

“Later the others also came. ‘Lord, Lord,’ they said, ‘open the door for us!’ “But he replied, ‘Truly I tell you, I don’t know you.’ (Matthew 25:12-13)

This is my last image of the series on the parable of the 10 virgins found in Matthew 25. This is how the story ends. The 5 foolish virgins must rush out to buy oil for their lamps because they have run out. But when they return to attend the banquet, the door is closed and they are not allowed in.

This parable is a two-fold warning. Firstly it is a warning to always be ready, because you do not know when the Lord will return. You do not want to be unprepared when He arrives. But secondly, this is a warning that the door will one day close. Grace and mercy are freely offered to us right now, but there will be a day when it is no longer available. How tragic would it be to be on the outside of the locked door, and hearing the words "I do not know you".

I pray you take this parable to heart, and always be ready for the Lord's return.

More images at www.ChristianPhotoshops.com

09/03/2026

Have you ever wondered why a narcissist often turns other people against you?

One of the most painful parts of these relationships is discovering that the person who hurt you has quietly been telling a very different story about you to others.

Suddenly people who once seemed supportive begin to distance themselves. Some may even believe things about you that simply aren’t true.

This isn’t an accident.

Narcissistic personalities often protect themselves by controlling the narrative. If they can make others doubt you, question you, or see you as the problem, it keeps attention away from their behaviour.

It’s called triangulation — bringing other people into the situation to create confusion, division, and isolation.

But truth has a way of surfacing over time.

If you’ve experienced this, remember: being misunderstood by people does not mean you are misunderstood by God. He sees the whole story — every hidden moment, every wound, every injustice.

And He is deeply committed to restoring what has been distorted.

09/03/2026

Have you ever noticed how certain people or memories keep coming back to your mind?
You try to move on. You tell yourself it’s in the past. But somehow their name, their face, or the situation keeps resurfacing — sometimes when you least expect it.
It can feel like torment. Like something you just can’t escape.
But what if those memories aren’t coming back to punish you…
What if they’re coming back to lead you toward healing?
Often when something remains unresolved in our hearts, the Holy Spirit gently brings it back into our awareness — not to shame us, but to invite us to bring that wound into God’s light.
Because what stays buried often keeps its power.
But what is brought to God can finally be healed.
Sometimes the memories that feel like they are haunting us are actually God inviting us into freedom — into a place where the pain no longer controls us, and the story no longer defines us.
Healing doesn’t always come from trying harder to forget.
Sometimes it begins by allowing God to show us why it still hurts — and letting Him restore what was broken.