10/12/2017
MARRIAGE - WHAT IS YOUR STRONG REASON?
The oldest institution established by God Himself at creation!
This article is an attempt to answer the question; Why do you want to marry?
Many are on the mountain right now praying and crying to God for one, others in it already wish they never did, to some; it's the best thing that ever happens to them, some are enjoying it, while others are enduring it, marriage makes some and mar others, some went into it with a wishful thinking that all will be well. To the already married - why did marry and to the singles, why do you want to marry? I just hope it's not because everyone is doing it.
Most of us got it ALL wrong; the failure of our society today is a product of the failing marriage institution.
The failure, on the other hand, is a result of gross ignorance of what marriage is or should be. Some men go into marriage because they cannot wait mainly or because they can no longer control their s*xual urge; wait, let me explain - going into marriage because you cannot control your urges is ok, it's biblical (But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. 1 Cor. 7:9) but do you think quenching your s*xual desire is enough reason to accept the responsibility of sharing the rest of your life with a total stranger? (Mark 10:8)
Yes, husband & wife are "total strangers" in most cases (though they do claim to be in love at the time of marriage conjugation). And yes, God expects two strangers to "live together as one for the rest of their life". It was confirmed in Rebekah's word that she met her husband Issac for the very first time on their wedding day and they sure love each other. 👉👉 Genesis 24:65 For she had said unto the servant, “What man is this who walketh in the field to meet us?” And the servant had said, “It is my master”; therefore she took a veil and covered herself. 67 And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent; and he took Rebekah and she became his wife, and he loved her. And Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.
The above👆👆 also confirm that the lack of long dating or courtship period is not necessarily responsible for the failures recorded in marriages that did not stem from long dating relationship before marriage like Issac's and Rebekah, Adam and Eve. As much as I am trying not to write against dating like I used to, I believe you need to know that you can not truly know the real person of your boy/girlfriend until after marriage even if you date for 10 years. (Ask people who have experienced this if you doubt me)
Well, since I do not have enough time to write all the right and wrong reasons for marriage, I'd like to close leaving intending couples with one thing; 👉 "find your strong reason before going into that marriage", in fact, different people may even go into marriage for different reasons - so find yours, because I have discovered that any two people (man & woman) can marry (so far they are children of God, see Rom. 4:18) compared to your mentality about what marriage is. Wrong mentality & lack of knowledge about marriage, therefore, is the greatest challenge of marriage.
Haven't you seen where the husband and wife are good and have great personalities as individuals but their marriage life is a mess? Don't blame them, blame their mentality. That's why any marriage can work out IF ONLY the couples are willing to make necessary adjustments.
Finally, young man, yes, 👉 YOU; if you marry that girl because of your uncontrollable s*xual urge, what happens when either of you travel, how about sickness, childbirth, monthly menstruation, etc??? I have had to travel abroad leaving my wife for many months and cheating is not an option for any of us. Trust me, s*x isn't enough reason. And please, let our beautiful ladies know that being able to give great s*xual pleasure, including different style(s) is not enough to command respect in the sight of real men in this century...He can actually get those cheaper than you can imagine.
Ultimately, I think we all need to return to the Creator of marriage to find out from Him, His plan and purpose for each of our Marriages because He has the manufacturer manual, besides, no two marriage is the same - as what works for your pastor or parents may not work for you!
Thanks for your time!
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Greetings from my beautiful wife👫.
I love you ❤all!
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